I lost my mother in the flesh but thankfully she went back to our spirit world, when I was 4 years old! Yes a sad day, from a fall she took, wearing her sisters high heel shoes with worn out heel soles, while walking down a steep side walk on her way to see about a job her mom told her about :) Yes, it tore them up inside about the poor shoes and telling her to make more money for her gift giving? Was not that important, as she was a talented gift herself! musician! Awe. She reacted trying to keep from falling down on the cement:( and tore herself up inside.